Autosexuality: Turning Yourself On, Literally

Let’s undress the orientation that puts you at the center of your own desire.

Mirror, Mirror—Do I turn me on?

What if your biggest turn-on... was you?

We live in a world obsessed with external attraction. Dating apps. Love languages. Validation from strangers. But what happens when the gaze turns inward? When desire doesn't seek another body but rests, comfortably and confidently, within your own skin?

Welcome to the world of autosexuality.

Autosexuality is a valid sexual orientation where an individual feels primary sexual attraction to themselves. Not just a fondness for solo play, not just body positivity. It’s about you being your own biggest turn-on. And no—it’s not narcissism. Let’s undress that myth right now.

What is Autosexuality, really?

Let’s get this straight: autosexuality is more than liking masturbation. It’s more than being confident. It’s a consistent sexual attraction to yourself. That means your fantasies often involve you. Your arousal is often triggered by your own image, thoughts, or sensations. You’re not just loving your body. You’re turned on by it.

Closely related is autoromanticism: romantic attraction toward oneself. Think buying yourself flowers, writing yourself love notes, or dreaming of being your own perfect partner.

Then there’s autoeroticism, which includes all kinds of solo sexual behavior—but without necessarily being tied to identity.

In short:

Autosexual = Sexually attracted to yourself.
Autoromantic = Romantically involved with yourself.
Autoerotic = Engages in solo sexual acts (a behavior, not an orientation).

For a deeper breakdown, check out Medical News Today's article on autosexuality.

Autosexual ≠ Narcissist (Let’s kill this myth)

Loving yourself doesn’t mean you’re full of yourself.

Narcissism is rooted in ego and the need for external validation. Autosexuality? It’s rooted in intimacy. It’s about a deep, embodied attraction to self—not superiority over others.

Kourtney Kardashian recently opened up about identifying with autosexuality. She spoke about feeling turned on doing her own makeup, dressing up for herself, and embracing her body during solo rituals. It’s not about ego—it’s about embodiment.

Signs you might be autosexual

Do any of these feel familiar?

You fantasize about yourself.
Your arousal is triggered by your reflection, your body, or your presence.
Masturbation isn’t a fallback—it’s a preferred experience.
You feel most sexually fulfilled on your own.

Autosexuality exists on a spectrum. You may still enjoy intimacy with others. Or you may find that you are your most satisfying lover.

Is This Healthy? Let’s talk psychology

Like any sexual orientation, autosexuality comes with its highs and hurdles.

Positive impacts:

Boosted self-esteem and body image: Autosexuals often develop a more loving relationship with their own bodies.
Improved mental health: Self-focused intimacy can be grounding, calming, and affirming.
Deeper self-awareness: Knowing what turns you on helps in every aspect of intimacy—including with partners.

Challenges:

Misunderstanding and stigma: It’s often dismissed as vanity or ego.
Relationship tension: Partners might misinterpret your self-focus as disinterest.
Internalized shame: You may struggle to embrace it if society keeps whispering that it’s “weird.”

For more on the emotional and psychological impact of autosexuality, see Verywell Mind's deep dive on signs and mental health.

Solo Sex ≠ Autosexuality (But it can still be sacred)

Let’s be clear: masturbating doesn’t make you autosexual.

Most people masturbate. Many enjoy it. That’s autoeroticism, not autosexuality.

Autosexuality isn’t about what you do. It’s about what arouses you. The center of your sexual desire isn’t an imaginary lover. It’s you.

That said, self-pleasure can still be sacred. A mirror ritual. A self-love ceremony. A moment of unapologetic embodiment.

"Loving yourself in bed doesn’t make you autosexual. It just makes you human. But craving your own image, being your own fantasy—that’s when we start undressing something deeper."

So... can autosexuals date or have sex with others?

Absolutely. Many do.

Some autosexuals also enjoy partnered sex or romantic relationships. Others don’t. It’s not about being a loner—it’s about being in tune with your own desire.

Autosexuality doesn’t exclude connection. It expands your relationship to self before others.

"Autosexuality isn't a prison—it's permission."

Final thoughts: Undress the shame

Autosexuality might make people uncomfortable. That doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

It’s a legitimate, beautiful, often misunderstood expression of self-love and sexual autonomy. In a world obsessed with finding "the one," maybe you already have. And maybe it’s you.

So here’s your permission to flirt with your reflection. To dress up for yourself. To turn yourself on.

Because sometimes, the deepest intimacy starts within.

Ready to explore your naked self?

If you're curious about what it means to love yourself deeper—sexually, emotionally, and spiritually—I'm here for you.

Whether you're navigating autosexuality, unlearning shame, or just craving a more authentic connection to your body and desires, I offer:

Let's strip away this taboo and find your truth together.

Book a session or reach out directly to start your journey.

— Rachael